The Indian #Metoo – We need to learn to say “#Ibelieve”

Today, I read #VintaNanda‘s facebook post that’s been doing the rounds on social media since the past few days. Sickened to the core, I read about what she went through two decades ago. I could recall reading an article many years ago about her ordeal, in some magazine. She hadn’t ventured out of her house for TWO YEARS after being raped and abused by her colleagues. She didn’t mention any name even then. And whose name?

The #AlokNath who went on to enjoy very successful innings in the television world as well as in the movie business. And the lady in question? Well, her career was effectively destroyed after that. Those of us possessing even a basic level of I.Q. will remember that her name suddenly disappeared from the screens of our television sets. That’s the way men put “difficult” women in their place; by labelling them and destroying their lives.

This has been an age old trend in our patriarchal world. Women who have dared to raise their voice against abuse, disrespect, misbehaviour are labelled as “difficult” and “arrogant” ? Because that’s the way the world gets back at them. That’s the reason we had women who were called ” WITCH ” and ” DAYAN ” many moons back.

“Why is she coming up with this after so many years? For publicity? “- This is what most people ( and not just men ) have to say about #TanushreeDutta‘s allegations against #NanaPatekar . It’s not rocket science to understand here that she is looking for “Exposure” and NOT “Publicity”. The pattern is familiar. A promising and upcoming actress suddenly left the movie business and went into hibernation; foresaking vanity, chopping off her hair, spending time in ashrams too. Even she had spoken out against him at that time and ended up being attacked by goons, harassed and victimized.

Speaking about something that happened in the past means that the person has finally gathered the courage and has been so traumatized by whatever happened, that she wants to get the poison out of her very being. She wants closure. Can you imagine what kind of effort it must have taken for her to take such a bold step and how much of her life is at stake here? If you don’t know what she is talking about, then at least don’t mock her effort by shouting “I don’t believe! ”

PLEASE, BE A MAN ENOUGH – TO LET A WOMAN BE A WOMAN ENOUGH!

WOMEN, PLEASE BE HUMANE ENOUGH TO SUPPORT OTHER WOMEN!

#IBelieve

© Oct 2018 Sapna Dhyani

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4 Comments

  • anupriya October 13, 2018 (2:06 pm)

    I completely am with you on every word you have written. Its ridiculous how people are questioning about these victimised women’s intentions. I mean, what is vinta nanda going to gain by defaming a TV super star almost 25 years after her ordeal. Where’s the Janta’s common sense?

    • Sapna Dhyani October 14, 2018 (5:25 pm)

      Thank you Anupriya! The janta needs an open mind which is free of prejudices..and an ability to form independent opinions, trusting one’s own judgement and common sense. It’s really disgusting to see people, specially women mocking and shaming them.

  • jina November 20, 2018 (5:05 am)

    Your work is really good,,, I inspired very much from you…Nice and great post. I like your thoughts and I think its best for to everyone… Keep it up and thanks for the information…

    • Sapna Dhyani November 30, 2018 (5:36 am)

      Hello Jina! Thank you for your feedback and the appreciation.

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